I had something totally different planned for today, but as Friday approached, I couldn't get this idea out of my head. So the funny one will be Monday. Today it is a bit serious and I wish I could do more.
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In the last few days, I have been reminded of several good guys that I know. What is my definition of good guys? A guy who knows his faults and is genuinely trying to work on them. Maybe that is a bad definition, but for today that is my definition. These good guys have been fighting to keep their masculinity in spite of the societal pressures to give it up. They are fighting for a healthy relationship with the world while they are maintaining their masculinity. These aren't easy fights in today's world. In fact, they are awfully darn hard. But God did not make them to fight this battle alone. God made a helper for them in this fight. Do you know who it is?
Women were made to be their helpers. Women were not made to run the relationship the way they see fit. These good men that I am thinking of have not had helpers. They have had women who are more interested in their own agenda than women who are interested in the agenda of a couple. These good men have tried to make these women happy and keep the relationship together. Did the women respond to these good men who are trying to fix themselves and their relationship? No. In many cases, they just found another man.
So to the good men out there who are trying to make themselves a better person and have no help in the
process, I apologize. I apologize for hurt these games have caused you because the truth is it isn't a game. You deserve better. I see you want to be a good husband and you don't have anyone to help you with that. I get it and God does too. God really does have a plan. Hold on and a good one will come.
To the women out there playing these games, games won't make you happy. Jumping from one guy to another or from one spending spree to another or from one job to another won't make you happy. Discover who you were meant to be in God. Discover your femininity in God. Then you will be happy.
To the women who are not playing games, thank you! Thank you for being honest and genuine. Thank you for positively contributing to what femininity should be. Thank you for searching for your femininity in places besides popular society. Thank you for realizing that you have work to do on yourself as well. If you fall into this category and find yourself single, I give you the same advice. God really does have a plan. Hold on and a good one will come. (And I know a few good men if you are interested. Joking, maybe.)
For the women who have been on the receiving end of bad guys, I'm sorry. You deserve better as well. Seek God and I promise He has a plan for you.
For the bad guys out there, seek God! Discover your masculinity in Him. Masculinity is neither as frail or as harsh as this culture portrays. Let God show you who you are to be because he has better for you than you know right now.
Thanks for listening to my heart today. I hope I wasn't too harsh.